Why is it said, “Give a rice grain and be grateful; give a bushel and be hated”?

The recipient tells you: You should be kind, generous, and help in times of need; be unselfish, have great love, and see others’ difficulties... In short, if you help him a little, he will remember your kindness in the future.

The advice from seasoned veterans, however, is much colder: Help in emergencies, not the poor; assist the needy, not the lazy. Giving once is a favor, giving ten times is a debt. If you refuse the tenth time, you become his enemy who killed his father.

Recipients complain within their relatives and social circles that you changed after getting rich and have no conscience. As a result, the current voices around you are all about how “stingy” you are.

When you search for how to handle interpersonal relationships, all you find are teachings about being generous and tolerant.

So the question is, if you truly want to make genuine friends, whose advice should you listen to?