If a way of understanding makes you smaller, more exhausted, and less willing to make decisions, then it is no longer growth. "This is my lesson" is originally meant to help people stop blaming others and turn inward. But when the same problem keeps recurring, relationships remain unchanged, and all discomfort is ultimately digested by you, it is no longer awareness but a silent transfer of responsibility. True internal responsibility will definitely make you stronger in facing reality, rather than better at convincing yourself to endure. Some lessons are not completed through endurance, but through leaving, refusing, or ending. Awareness is not meant to endure everything, but to make clear-headed choices.