To determine whether a family has a relaxed atmosphere, observe how children respond during emotional conflicts. There are roughly three states:

1. Emotional Release: When parents lose control of their emotions and shout at the child, the child will cry—whether out of frustration, sadness, or fear. At least this indicates they can express their feelings through emotions. This means the family environment is not completely closed off, and emotions are still allowed to flow.
2. Relationship Security: If, after crying, the child still dares to talk back or rebut—whether to defend themselves or to express feelings—even if they are clearly at fault, they are often indicating they have a basic sense of security and a voice within the family. They know that expressing themselves won't completely damage the relationship, and the overall family atmosphere is relatively relaxed.
3. Emotional Suppression: When conflicts occur, if the child remains silent for a long time—neither crying, rebutting, nor explaining—it often indicates they are experiencing a tense or oppressive family atmosphere. In such environments, children tend to suppress their emotions rather than express them.
Therefore, a relaxed family is not one without conflicts, but one where children still dare to release and express their emotions during conflicts.